Words of wisdom
More Intelligent Life gets this correct:
Tribes and belonging are what teen dressing is largely about. Clothes are instant shorthand, legible from a distance and giving out subtle signals that make adult dressing look straightforward. As a parent, you don’t want to encourage your child to be a fashion victim; but neither do you want them cast into the social outer-darkness because their peers mock their clothes. Like so many other aspects of parenting, it involves treading a fine line and not knowing whether you got it right until years later. Perhaps never.
Ideally your role would be similar to the one on the touchline. You make sure they get to the match, you offer advice if asked, you support them and cheer them on and worry they’ll get injured, but you don’t actually play the game for them (though I’ve seen some parents have a good try). There will be misses and fouls and defeats along the way, but you have to stand back and let them happen.